Question: I tend to use they/them both when I’m unsure of someone’s gender or pronouns, and when gender is irrelevant to a given conversation. Does that also feel like a misgender?
(Disclaimer: I might be biased, because I feel more like agender, which means I’m more comfortable not referencing gender at all)
I get that, I’m just trying to understand the difference between /them and /it in that example. I feel like “them” is more generic than “it”, so I feel like “them” would be a better fit in a space where it’s nobody’s business, the same as in a professional setting.
Am I mistaken or missing something?