First of i am very sex repulsed. It triggers some trauma (i am very sure i am ace anyway tho).

Seeing people sexualising themselfs or others is the worst for me. it can literally end the day for me, because i have to stay in bed for the rest of the day trying to deal with the emotions. So naturally i try to avoid that. all my friends are very suportive. On the internet i obviously dont go to places where such things might be. today i way watching roadrage videos. should be save enough right? ofc not. because some people gotta but sexualising content literally everywhere. The otherday i looked for chess openings. found a guide who ??? sexualised the chess pieces???

i am just tired. nsfw already has the majority of internet traffic. cant i just have some small portion where i can feel save?

I know i am an extreme case but it just feels so darn isolating. i am scared of joining any discord server. i used to my partner check subreddits (thankfull lemmy seems to be less bad in this regard) before joining. the internet gives potential for so much community especially for an introvert like me. but beeing so very sex repulsed locks me out of those communitys right away.

Thanks for reading. I dont think there is help or a solution. I just needed to rant to someone.

  • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zipEnglish
    372·
    4 months ago

    Hello, i am just reading this from my all feed and am not asexual myself, just as a disclaimer.

    This sounds like some deep and unresolved trauma, I can get annoyed and bored with the widespread hypersexualisation myself, but the fact that you have to grapple with sexual contents through what is essentially a personal breakdown is a very extreme reaction.

    Have you considered therapy to get at the root cause here? The way you describe it your condition is utterly debilitating and any health insurance worth their money should provide you with treatment for this.

    • SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      61·
      4 months ago

      i am looking since ereydsterday. eversince the pandemic waitlists are months to years in my country. i moved any couldnt continue with ly old doc. havent found a new one for two years now

      • BaroqueInMind@lemmy.oneEnglish
        412·
        4 months ago

        I don’t care to read your excuses. If you don’t care to help yourself, no one will force you, and you can continue your life in that static stagnant mental place you allow yourself to live in for no reason.

  • eatthecake@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    4 months ago

    I also hate it although i don’t have your level of reaction. My only advice is to block people. My blocklist is huge.

  • Rentlar@lemmy.caEnglish
    9·
    4 months ago

    If you were looking for a technical solution on Lemmy, you can block the entire lemmynsfw server, and the selection of anime, furry and celeb communities with sexually suggestive content. That should deal with 98% of it, most of that type of stuff won’t land on news, memes or shitpost and definitely not without an nsfw tag.

    As for generally in our world, I can’t help you much since sex sells, and advertisers, social media want to target users’ horny signals to get their attention.

    • SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      61·
      4 months ago

      yeah i know. i just like to dream of a world where i could live without it. Also i really apprechite lemmy for that. its other sites i struggle with. sites with “cool userfriendly algorithms”

  • blahsay@lemmy.worldEnglish
    102·
    4 months ago

    People like funking. It’s literally how we all got here. You’ll have to get over this one sorry - society literally can’t change to accommodate your preference without ceasing to exist.

    • SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      51·
      4 months ago

      ill link this short video, since it is more well put then i ever could: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2IrG68YTMjo

      I dont ask for much. literally just wanna follow my sfw hobbies without beeing forced to confront my inner demons every day. I agree that i should “get over it”. but maybe you dont realise the scope. this is at best a years long therapy process that in the end might never pay off.

      And quite frankly are you also telling war veterans to get a grip, because people like fire work? are you telling parents to stop crying about child protection because if we dont sexualise cartoon characters online we would cease to exist?

      i dont even ask to be helped i just wanted to rant. i am aware that 99% of people dont give a damn about trauma. why be so confrontational towards me?

        • SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          51·
          4 months ago

          why did i waste so much time dealing with my mental health when i could just instead go to lemmy where strangers can tell me how easy it is to deal with. Seriously is changing persoective so hard? as said before i dont even ask for help, or for anyone to change their lives. yet people get so pissed of by the notion that hypersexualisation might be hurtful to one (1) person. (it hurts more but in this thread i feel to be alone on this side)

  • LinkOpensChest.wav@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    2·
    4 months ago

    It’s too bad r/19684 didn’t leave reddit and come here. At least you’re on an instance where people are (hopefully) supportive, but I know that doesn’t really fix the problem