In those groups there is so much self hatred that gets pushed out on the world in order to not face their own feelings. I remember a coworker i was talking with in a group and mentioned without a second thought that another coworker (another dude) new haircut looked good on them and he kind of locked up. he Started saying “he was im not gay. so he couldn’t even think like that.”

now remember we are talking about a haircut and this guy starts freaking out like we are talking his package. If you are that insecure in your sexual preferences. That talking about someones haircut is the same as thinking about them in a sexual way. So something is definitely being repressed. I think most healthy people one day ask themselves “Am i gay?” then answer yes or no and moved on with their day.