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  • This 100%.

    Sometimes you can be the hug they never got when they were a little kid and their fuckhead dad beat them instead of letting them be gay (or whatever authentic self got crushed).

    I’m not saying you should put a huge amount of work into this but sometimes being kind and meeting someone where they’re at even if they’re super wrong does more to break the mold than to be a dickhead back. These people have a lot of experience doubling down to resistance, and if you surprise them with kindness it can shake up the whole setting.

    That said, if you’re kind and try to teach them, and they’re still bastards/non-receptive, then move on and change the minds you can. Don’t waste your time on people that don’t want it.



  • This is interesting, thank you for sharing.

    I personally would tally this up as “12%” rather than “24%”.

    Or at least in my opinion, option “D” (bad person that did some good things) is most likely the closest to an objective answer and “E” (completely bad) is a totally acceptable summary. But both D and E both summarize Hitler as bad. The people summarizing him as “balanced” or “good” totaled to 12%.

    To be clear, this is still horrific imo.









  • I agree 100%. Not sure if it’ll helps you feel better but I’m “the” other person that has been saying this along with you lol. I’m a psychology geek and it is so completely obvious that’s what he has imo. I have noticed over the years that people don’t “get” NPD because it’s so counter-intuitive to a functioning human though.

    I would actually argue that NPD is on average more dangerous than the ASPDs like psychopathy and sociopathy because it implicitly involves other people. Psycho/sociopaths want “something” and will do anything to get it but sometimes that thing they want may be fairly harmless. Like maybe they sometimes they just stuff so they’re thieves. Not great, but mostly a victimless crime. Narcissists specifically want admiration and to prop up that fragile sense of self but that always specifically involves other people, so they’re always going to be in proximity with others where the ASPDers may not.

    Tldr, the doom Cheeto is a POS with NPD and I will lose exactly zero sleep the day he dies.


  • As others have said, this is not the behavior that is indicative of healthy adult friendships.

    You’re feelings are real, valid, and a way that your body is trying to inform you you don’t feel safe.

    You’re not a loser. Living as an Autistic in an NT world is fucking rough. I would appreciate if you didn’t kill yourself.

    capped the level of closeness they have with me to protect me

    Did you ask for this? Your preferences are not theirs to decide if not.

    My recommendation is trying to find and join communities that are more accepting. I have found ND and LGBTQ+ (even though I’m just a straight white guy) circles to be generally very accepting as they have had people be jerks to them and they are willing to accept and appreciate people for who they are.


  • I work in a PC repair shop and I run my tool stick on this way. By the way, you can just put a folder in your Ventoy and store non-iso files so you can have portable apps and so on.

    • Acronis (can clone to reduced size drives unlike clonezilla which can only clone to equal or bigger)
    • MemTest86 & MemTest86+ (+ is the FOSS one. Recommend both because sometimes one won’t work)
    • Don’t forget that you can put other stuff in a Ventoy, not just .isos. I have shitlods of utilities in a folder beside all the .isos.
    • Tons more but I just woke up for work. I will make this list much longer when I get there of I can remember to

    Edit: ADHD did ADHD things. Here’s some more stuff. A lot of it is Windows-centric because that’s what we specialize in. ISOs:

    • PC Unlocker (Windows password remover, paid)
    • Gandalf’s Windows Preboot (similar to Hirans, but modern. Paid.)

    Utilities:

    • CrystalDiskInfo (SMART checks and more on SSDs)
    • CrystalDiskMark (SSD benchmark)
    • FastCopy (Windows copy utility. Free)
    • HDTunePro (v5.00 specifically. After this, license binds to a single machine. HDD SMART checks, benchmark, secure erase, sector scans, and more.)
    • OCCT (CPU, GPU, Memory, PSU, and other checks and stress tests. Top-tier tool.)
    • F6 Drivers (drivers for NVMe detection on some laptops)
    • Spacesniffer (visual representation of disk utilization. Similar to WinDirStat, but looks nicer/runs quicker imo. Free.)




  • OP what makes you think you’re not? This post is autistic AF, as someone autistic.

    I’m very high masking when I choose to be (sometimes when I’m not… it’s sort of automatic by nature at times) and in a lot of cases people never know. I was in my 30s before I figured it out, and I used to use the saying “I’m not autistic but” a lot.

    There are free tests available. AMA (not a pro but I have over 30yrs experience!)