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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • Second only to a death, divorce is the biggest possible deal for a family, and I’m tired of people pretending like it’s not. It’s valid in cases of abuse, or if the unhappiness is to a degree where it becomes emotionally damaging to the kids, but divorce should not even be put on the list of available options. Divorce is what you do when none of the available options end up working.



  • Do you have kids? I used to hate when people would ask me that question before I had kids, because it seems to imply that having them places your opinion on a higher tier. Now that I do, I try and avoid it as much as possible for that reason, but I do understand that parenting is one of the theaters where theory space, and optimal practice, can be very different. The fact is, they never have to know, at least until they’re old enough to understand. They don’t have to know that Dad is sad when he’s alone with Mom, because we still have fun and laugh as a family when they are present. The lesson that I’m teaching them by example, is that it is better to have one bedroom than two, then to have to decide whether they want to live with mom or dad most of the time, that even though Mom and Dad civilly argue sometimes, we can still be a family, and be happy most of the time, rather than give up on a promise made before they were born because of factors they can’t possibly understand yet.



  • Porn is the only reason I am still married. After our second kid, my wife’s already low sex drive dropped to asexual. She is a wonderful mother, but she is either willfully or ignorantly oblivious to any romantic advance. I get, on average, about one fully clothed, under-the-covers hand job every 6 months or so that’s so unenthusiastic that I am reminded why I stopped trying to get her to do it. I am sexually starving. The only thing I want in the world right now is to feel the warm touch of someone who actually wants to touch me again, but I’d rather die, lonely, but married to her than let my kids grow up in a broken home…

    So ya, I jerk off to porn after she goes to bed.









  • My feeling has always been that most alternative political theories that get attention really are a good way to do things, until you get to the application stage. Communism is a Utopia on paper, until you involve actual humans with greed and the wish to be better than the person standing beside them. Pure libertarianism, which I will hear no argument is not just anarchy in practice, is also fine and good, until you remember that we live in a society that has to account for the lowest denominators, and of the fact that, unless they’re forced to, nobody’s going to band together to build roads, and infrastructure, and help Grandma pay for her medications. Libertarianism is a reactionary outcome to the knee jerk reaction of someone looking at their paycheck, and seeing that the government took money that they feel like they earned all by themselves.