I never generalized about all men. I’m not treating this as oppositional, just acknowledging real social forces. I never said all men are evil and suck, nor did anyone. the original post said that men are not being raised in a way that makes them desirable as adults, and that’s true. it doesn’t mean no man is desirable. you’re the one taking that personally. there is no bandwagon here, just women talking about their experiences and it predictably getting derailed. there’s no us vs them, this can and should be a productive thing to talk about for everyone involved, but most men are very prone to getting defensive, so all that happens is an argument.

in online spaces, men always have an issue with women being “overly general” whenever we refer to general trends, patterns, and even our own personal experiences. if men want to complain about the cold treatment they get from women, they can and that’s valid, because I’ve been on the receiving end of that and it sucks. but they don’t seem to talk about it separately, it’s always an either-or, the idea that only one of these sides can be valid, and they always try to speak over women or use their feelings as a reason women need to stop talking about theirs.